How I feel about roora / lobola is pretty clear, but for those who don’t know, here it is.
Lobola is archaic, abused, abusive and sexist. It’s unnecessary and oppressive, and has no place in the modern world.
Lobola as practised in Zimbabwe isn’t a “token of appreciation” as it was originally meant to be. It’s a money-spinning exercise.
Nobody can tell me that someone paying thousands of dollars for a wife is not a SALE. It’s like buying a cow, no matter how you want to look at it, or howl about how it’s not a sale blah blah. If you sell me something, I’ll treat it as mine.
There can be no possibility of equality in a marriage, or equal rights for a woman who has accepted to be sold like a piece of meat. Just accepting that you’re for sale means you’ve accepted an unequal position in the relationship. What happens when you try to be assertive? You’re told to stay in your damn lane, that’s what.
In fact, there’s a direct correlation between the practise of lobola and spousal abuse. I personally don’t understand how anyone would accept being sold off, but that’s just me. I’m “overly intellectual”.
Now, to the point. Since I’m paying roora for this daughter, what happens in the event of divorce?
I’ll tell you what happens in the event of divorce.
You’re giving me my money back.