“To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, but the devil slapped on the genitals.” – Don Schrader
I love porn. There, I said it. But not for the reasons you may think.
I think explicit imagery is important as a contrast to the majority of mainstream representation of women’s sexuality.
The prevailing message women receive is that sexual aggression is unfeminine, that a woman’s primary sexual role is as regulator of male desire — to say yes or no, but not to pursue desires of their own.
Girls are still taught that sexy is the same as “pretty,” that it means dressing a certain way and then waiting to be approached. Fuck films show women being sexually aggressive and powerful in a way that sometimes isn’t pretty, but is definitely sexy.
Because we live in a country that actively censors ideas no matter how popular, we are unable to better cultivate our own individual belief systems.
This is because one of the ways we learn what we believe in, and become mature opinionated adults, is by encountering language and imagery that we disagree with or have strong reactions to – the best ideas come out of confronting the unfamiliar.
Human desires evolve out of our varied, complex experiences in the world. Sex is so basic to our humanity, and sexuality is an arena (like dreams) that connects us to the parts of ourselves we don’t always fully understand or have words for.
This is what makes sexuality fascinating and endlessly variable and certainly worth exploring (extensively). But with any exploration, be it of one’s self or environment, there has to be moderation, common sense and respect for others.
I wouldn’t bring a copy of Playboy to supper at my mother’s house, not because Playboy is obscene, but because it would be out of context. But sitting on my coffee table? The context fits, because the choice is mine.
Bottom line is, if you don’t like porn or Playboy, fine. Don’t try and impose your moral aversion to pornography on the entire world – just try not to watch it.
Leave that to me.