Well… ZESA went (it was a genuine technical problem) this morning in our hood so me and a couple of workmates decided to go by Scoop at Avondale and get some ice cream and frozen yoghurts. So this one lady from work starts complaining about how people are modernising this whole asking out women issue – she said guys have this “faster faster model”.
Apparently there is a dude who is asking her out: she smaaks the dude but doesn?t want to make it too easy – she is saying if she just goes out with this guy, she will not be valued: ?easy come easy go?.
Anyway the whole discussion went on and on about how long one should take to say YES, and if people have the chance of saying YES these days, or you probably find yourself bonking or being bonked before you even know it, you’re going out with this person, or ever actually said yes we can go out. We agreed however that there is no set standard and people fall in love differently?
I really felt sorry for my workmate: I mean all she needs is to feel loved, to feel “asked out” and to grow into a relationship. But brothers these days the minute you play hard to get they be gone! Remember in high school how we used to really ask out gals??
I mean thinking about it when was the last time our ladies have had some dude who has come up and asked them out and waited for an answer or it?s all about brothers wanting to “pull fast ones”. When was the last time our sisters have actually been able to answer and say YES (ndada hangu). I am sure my workmate is not the only sister craving for some guy who will really come over and ask out (boyz kunyatso nyenga) and sweep her off her feet ? give her a chance to say YES.
Maybe we’re living in a modern world were time is not on our side and you cant be fishing one fish for a long time? Or maybe we communicating better via email, cell phones etc. I dunno but I just feel it?s not the same anymore and do I see all you sisters nodding your heads?